Positive Thinking...Denial?

I hear from people in my circles and read alot about this positive thinking power. Let me say that I do, in fact, agree with most of what I hear and read, and even say myself. Yet, I also hear it in other terms, from church people mostly, coined like this "have faith", "trust God", "don't speak that out." The thing is, the non believing crowd I'm around, and the Jesus followers (Yeshua also), are saying the exact same things. I heard someone say "well, if you say that, you create more of it and speak it into existence in the future". OK. I do agree on a level. Then there is the other level. We must be honest. We must have integrity and humility enough to say what our reality is. Otherwise, you're the tele-evangelism guy you love to hate who "names it and claims it". How is that any different? Or, its lying and living in a pollyanna denial. What I mean is this. It is OK and HEALTHY to say and be sad. It's ok to let yourself cry, to let yourself get angry. Its not being a human to not allow these emotions, its a human doing, not a human being. I think many say these things because they are afraid of their own feelings. I hear alot too that "if I let myself cry, it will be too much" or something like that. So, you zip up yourself nice and tight and think you're open-minded? Really? Zipped right up. OK. No, not ok. We are not here to be doers, to have it all together all the time, to say the right thing, have the right attitude, be the "positive energy" or "faith-filled". No. We are here to LIVE. FULLY. To be present. To love fully. To give sincerely. The thing is, and I need reminding on this, is that these feelings need to be shared, felt and talked about in the right place and with the right people. That's the hard part. Many of us have complainers around us, or sympathetic people but not healthy people, the list goes on. We don't have many safe people. The feelins but be with safe people, in a safe place and at a safe time. Having your feelings ignored or trampled on is what caused you to shut down in the first place, to strive to have it all together because if you didn't, boy oh boy, hell to pay. So, find that place. Find that person. There is power in ALL our emotions, not just the "good" ones. If rain really is the earth crying, as a metaphor of course, then the tears truly do cleanse. But, first they kinda make things muddy and yucky, gloomy, cloudy. At first...be patient.